Absit Lapsus Oman
Basics | |
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| Sex | Male |
| Age | Mid-to-Late 40s |
| Birthday | April 1, 1978 [2022] |
| Height | 5'6 (171 cm) |
| Weight | 132 lbs (59 kg) |
| Sexuality | Biromantic Bisexual |
| Occupation | Fashion Designer |
| Religion | Devout Catholic |
| Conditions | PTSD, Social Anxiety, Depression, Shellfish Allergy |
| Themes | - Trauma |
| - Bad things happen to good people | |
| - Accepting flaws | |
| - Moving on from a loved one | |
Relationships | |
Family | |
| Father | Ofric Oman (32 years older) |
| Dead Wife | Beatriz Oman (Same age) |
| Son | Felix Oman (27 years younger) |
| Younger Brother | Dagda Oman (1 year younger) |
| Older Sister | Evelyn Oman-Ohno (6 years older) |
| Niece | Iðunn O'Mann (18 years younger) |
Friends | Okkultely Fans Friend | Nina Kneller (10 years younger) |
Neighbors | Neighbor | Gatlin Clingman (7 years younger) |
| Neighbor | Deems Mendel (2 years younger) |
Symbolism |
| Motifs | Death, Crosses, Hanging, Chains |
| Tarot | XII: The Hanged Man |
| MBTI | ISFJ-T |
| Archetype | The Innocent |
| Flower | Hellebore |
| Animal | Dove? |
| Alignment | Lawful Good |
"I'll do whatever you want, just please kill me!!!"
Basic Info
Absit's backstory varies between stories, but in every canon, he's an unlucky, timid crybaby single father whose wife died in childbirth. He grew up very close to his father, but was heavily bullied by his other siblings, making him the closed off, apologetic man he is today: a man who never wants to waste even a second of someone else's time to help him, even if it's their job to do so. He's extremely passive and has a hard time making decisions, as he worries about the consequences for either choice he makes.
He dabbles in the occult for a host of reasons: to try to have better control over his perceived 'bad luck,' to not live in ignorance of these superstitions only for them to sneak up on and kill him, and to potentially revive his dead wife. In all his current 'worlds,' supernatural stuff at least minorly exists, so thus far, he's two-for-two in not being a total nutjob. Good for him.
His wife is dead.
- The reclusive man wears the attention-grabbing attire he does to honor his wife's wishes, who, for a time, helped him break out of his shell.
- He does enjoy the clothing he wears (it fits his taste to a T), but if it weren't for his wife, he'd wear dull, boring sweaters and button-downs as to not call attention to himself.
- His clothing is often a means to express himself. He'll have certain symbolism hidden away (or not-so-hidden) on outfits to show his mood, hopes, theming, etc.
- He's very superstitious and paranoid. He looks for symbolism in everything, be it colors, numbers, flowers, or anything else.
- He's a very doting father who's always there for his son (Felix), yet is also very co-dependent on him for his own emotional support.
- He's a vegetarian because he could never eat another living creature's flesh. He's a little uncomfortable whenever he has to be near people eating meat.
- He'd like to go full vegan, but he likes parfaits and milk too much. He does cut down on cheese.
- His son is the one who finally got him to join a local occult club (OkkultelyFans) years after his wife died.
Trivia
- "Absit Oman" is a pun of "Absit Omen," which is a Latin phrase said in hopes the bad thing you mentioned doens't come true. (Ex: "If my wife were to die—ABSIT OMEN—that'd be really sad.")
- "Lapsus" means "a lapse or error," aka, he was an accident. Yes, they made his middle name proof of that. Very nice.
- He's also an 'error' because he's the only kind, caring person in his family, despite all the abuse. An error, but also a miracle.
- He keeps a journal and writes entries to his deceased wife each day. It's very important to him.
- He sometimes sleeps (NON-SEXUALLY) with his kid, when he's having a bad night (he doesn't ask, but his kid knows he wants to be with someone, so he insists).
- To make him German (I NEEDED MORE GERMANS IN THIS BERLIN-SET GAME), I changed his last name to "Mann" for his human form, but "Oman" is so good for his name pun and also for connecting him to Idunn without changing her name and ruining her pun, so I am at a loss. Either way, he's either a Mann or Oman.
- He's an elf in his D&D interpretation (which I am dubbing Oman's Land for now). I might change him to Half-Elf or Human later. We'll see.
- While he was always a crybaby loser daddy's boy, he was originally way more evil, given his first drawing ever with him monologuing to Idunn. That exact interaction is no longer canon, but I feel he might've done the same thing, just with more tears and shaking and hiccups instead of just looking cocky. He'd be putting on a show.
- He was originally supposed to be built as a Warlock for D&D but I have never liked a single Warlock build in my life. I fear for him.
- I originally had his birthday as April 30th, 2023, but his first sketch ever (before having a name) was saved on April 1st, and him being born on April Fool's Day is too good to pass up. I also sometimes mark his birthday as May 3, 2022, because that's when I made his Toyhou.se (and also named him, perhaps?)
His wife is dead.
Assets
- Cautious
- Kind
- Patient
- Smart
- Apologetic
- Accommodating
Flaws
- Antisocialn
- Paranoid
- Indecisive
- Panicky
- Superstitious
- Defeatist
Likes
- Peace and Quiet
- Symbolism
- Designing Clothing
- Gothic Theming
- Songs that Remind him of his Wife
- Literature
- Parfaits
- Cozy Blankets
Dislikes
- Social Interaction
- Crowds
- Asking for Help
- Any Appointment
- Bullies (I had to)
- Harsh Sunlight
- Meat
- Screaming/Crying Babies
Habits
- Pursing his lips
- Playing with his hands/outfit
- Avoiding eye contact
- Squeezing his eyes shut
- Placing his hands in front of himself, defensively
- Sobbing softly to himself in the corner
Fears
- Being perceived
- Phone calls
- Wasting people's times
- Screaming children (sends him into a panic attack, reminded of his wife's death)
Philosophy
"...Sorry for apologizing."
I DON'T EXIST. LALALALA, IGNORE ME.
Keep to yourself. Don't bother others. If you do that, nobody can hate you. And if nobody hates you, nobody should hurt you.
...So why do people keep hurting me anyway?
(His siblings messed him up. His wife helped slowly break him out of his shell, but then she died a day before his birthday, leaving him with a newborn baby to take care of, which broke him again. Whoops. At least he's not bullied by his family anymore—though he's too traumatized to notice they're not bullying him (they're more apathetic than anything else now, just making occasional rude quips).)
History

Earth/Main Canon (not set in stone)
Absit was born a bastard child to a married man, making him the black sheep of the family from his conception. His mother never thought of him as a son, electing to ignore his existence whenever possible, while his older sister heavily bullied him (for a host of reasons), and his later younger brother was apathetic to it all, but extremely blunt, leading to his own accidental bullying. As such, Absit clung to his father, the one person in the family who took the time to care for him, even if it was partially out of guilt. Regrettably, by the time he was 13, his father started getting frail [I don't have a condition in mind right now], leading to him spending frequent days in the hospital. Despite the stress the entire family should have been suffering from, the bullying didn't let up, leading him further and further into reclusion.
Absit originally went to university to learn medicine, solely for the far-fetched dream that he could fix his father, but after he passes away during his Sophomore year, he decides, all connections to the world cut, to end his own life. He treks up to a nearby cliff, only to be startled right before the act by a woman who frequented the location every Friday to take in the view. He almost falls to his death just from losing his balance when she calls to him, but she catches him and profusely apologizes, asking him to sit down with her for a bit, a safe distance away. They talk, and seeing how lonely and socially awkward he is—along with the guilt of almost killing him—she decides to ask if they can hang out again. Absit, never one to refuse someone, agrees, despite his extreme reservations. Thanks to her, he has another connection to the world once more, even if it was forced.
She becomes his first friend, and convinces him, with no passion for medicine, to go into fashion design instead, which he does, despite his fear of his family's further rejection of him. By their Junior year, through her insistence, the two start dating when he's 21. Marriage is still out of the question for the very slow-paced man.
Through her, he gains a bit more confidence, still a complete pushover, but a little more talkative with less total freakouts at the smallest of errors. He's not invited to his sister's wedding (17 years old), but is surprised when he's invited to his brother's (23 years old). Him and his brother minorly reconnect and come to terms with each other, though his sister is still dismissive and standoffish, blaming Absit for 'being selfish' for still letting stuff from their childhood get to him, telling him to 'grow up.' He apologizes and says he doesn't know how to.
He marries his own partner when he's 25, and after years of coaxing, he's finally convinced to have a child with her, only for the woman who opened up his world to have her life taken in childbirth, a day before his 29th birthday. He is absolutely devastated, yet has to perservere, for the sake of this new child that had now been thrown into his life.
From then on, he lives for her sake, doing whatever he can to live up to what she wanted him to be, so she could still exist in this world in some form. He's a great father, all things considered, aside from his frequent anxiety attacks and sobbing breakdowns. His son, while rather aloof himself, supports him in turn, and is the replacement motivator in his life when Absit is too miserable to figure out what the love of his life would want him to do in any given situation.
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Family 



Beatriz Oman (Beloved Wife and Victim of Him)
Absit
Beatriz healed him. She was the light in his life that he never had.
In their nine years together, he made a lot of progress healing his broken mind. He could never truly love himself, but he could at least come to terms with the fact that she did, and having anyone love him was fantastic for his mental health.
At some point, he even started cracking jokes and having a bit of a teasing side: signs that he truly was recovering.
That was all ripped away from him with her death. He spiraled deeper into depression and self-hate than ever before. He blames himself for her death. He killed her. If she never got pregnant by him, she wouldn't have died.
Beatriz
Initially, Beatriz hanged out with him out of guilt and pity, but in time, she grew to truly love how kind and selfless he was.
Part of her love for him was to help with her own mental struggles. She suffered from her own bouts of depression, but knowing she could make Absit happy made her feel like she had a purpose.
She did have some minor resentment for him when he made it in the fashion design world and she didn't. He kept putting himself down, which made her feel even worse. He's "not good enough" and he made it, so what does that make her? She felt horrible for those thoughts, considering herself in the wrong. She should be happy for him...
Felix Oman (Beatriz's Son (aka, his Son))
Absit
Absit cherishes Felix, but for all the wrong reasons. Felix's actual personality doesn't factor into his love at all; all that matters is that he's the last remaining piece of Beatriz left alive, and therefore, he must be loved and doted on to the fullest extent of his power.
It's hard for him to see past all this obsession and hold an honest opinion on his son, which is sad. He can probably see a bit more of Felix for himself once Felix is a teen and starts helping him become a more functioning adult, but even then, the comparisons to Beatriz, who did the same, are endless.
He is proud of his son. ...Even if he still credits Beatriz partially for it, for "making such a good son."
Felix
Felix loves his dad, and understands that Absit is a very kind and thoughtful person, but Felix is uncomfortable with how Absit bends over backwards to try to please him every moment of his life. He just wants to be a normal person, darn it, not some sacred being.
By the time he's a teen, he's helping take care of Absit more than Absit takes care of him. He's trying so hard to make him a functioning adult, but his trauma and depression is so bad...
Why can't he just be normal?
Basically, his dad tires him out to no end, but Felix knows he means well.
Evelyn Ohno (Bully Older Half-Sister)
Absit
Absit was bullied by her as a kid, and her actions are a big reason why he's so traumatized and lacking any self-esteem today. He has never gotten over her abuse, her words ingrained into his very being. She hasn't changed much since they were kids and blames him for his adult personality, which just makes him further accept his mental anguish is his fault, not hers.
Evelyn
From the moment Evelyn learned Absit wasn't her "real" brother (a statement hammered into her at a young age by her mother), Evelyn has treated Absit as a lesser, unworthy of her family's name. She embraced the "othering" of Absit as an excuse to cause pain without consequences, which extended into her adult life, and her belief that there's nothing wrong with bullying.
She "likes" Absit as a fun target to abuse, but hates him as a person. She can't stand how soft-spoken and depressed he is, and doesn't consider him actual family.
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Dagda Oman (Space Cadet Younger Half-Brother)
Absit
Dagda orders Absit around, which made Absit thinks he hated him, just like his sister and mother. In reality, Dagda idolized him for being so nice. When Dadga gets married and invites Absit to his wedding, they at least partially make up, Absit learning that Dagda thinks he's 'cool.' That said, the ordering around never stops, Dagda often telling Absit to take care of his rowdy daughter (Absit's niece).
Dagda
Blank-faced idiot who was conceived shortly after Absit, to solidify that the mistress who conceived Absit didn't matter. Dagda always looked up to Absit for being so nice, but due to his niceness, ordered him around constantly. He doesn't consider it taking advantage of him, because otherwise, he'd just say 'no,' right?
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Iðunn O'Mann (Scary Niece)
Absit
Absit is scared of her, but does try his best to take care of her. This can include scolding, though he's a soft-spoken pushover most of the time, unless she's doing something potentially deadly or criminal.
They're good foils for each other, and I enjoy having the two interact, usually with Idunn being a menace, while Absit freaks out/suffers as her (potentially unintentional) victim.
Idunn
Bane of his existence. She pokes and prods never goes away when he politely asks,and after years of abuse, he figures she's just trying to torment him. She genuinely thinks he's cool and he's her favorite family member—mainly because he's the only one who takes her abuse, instead of kicking her out or yelling at her.
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Gatlin (Scary Neighbor who won't Leave him Alone)
Absit
Absit is soft-spoken and shy, while Gatlin is the opposite, and very forceful about it, rarely leaving Absit alone when he sees him. This makes Absit dread every frequent encounter they have.
Despite not liking him, Absit does put up with him, because he's very bad at saying 'no' to things.
Gatlin
Gat "likes" Absit, but also can't stand how passive and soft-spoken he is. He wants to "fix" him. Gatlin constantly invites himself into Absit's home, causing the man quite a lot of distress.
Despite them not liking each other, Gat interacts with his neighbor very often, determined to "fix" him, by forcing him out of his shell—just like Marius did to him, years ago. He figures it if worked on him, then it should be the same for anyone else, and they'll thank him later. Gatlin claims, even to himself, that his "bullying" is for Absit's own good, but deep down, he does take sadistic glee from it. But nooo, everything he does is for Absit's sake. He's a Good Samaritan! It's not malicious!
Gat will also often hire Absit for freelance fashion work, when he wants a new outfit, or to alter an existing piece.
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Deems Mendel (Worrisome Man)
Absit
Deems is a neighbor who thankfully bothers him a lot less, aside from playing music way too loudly, or yelling at his "enemies" from his front door. Absit is still cautious around him, due to Deems' brazen personality and loudness, and is still sometimes lightly bullied by him. They might become friends later, with an almost father-son dynamic.
Deems
Deems "likes" Absit, because his soft-spoken patheticness makes him feel better about himself. When in a bad mood, Deems will sometimes bully him, because he desperately wants to feel power over another person, without receiving any consequences, like he would with others. He tends to feel bad about it afterwards, but doesn't apologize, because like hell is he going to admit he was wrong!
In time, Deems might find Absit somewhat relatable (they both cry a lot, and want to feel loved and protected), and might calm down on the aggression and try to be softer to him, secretly wanting softness in return. Absit might be the first person he breaks his narcissistic facade with, knowing Absit won't judge him. Deep down, they're both men struggling with emotional issues, due to troubled childhoods. He might even consider Absit a new father figure, in time. It'd definitely be healing for both of them. Ratings are based off of once they're comfortable with each other.
Zane Lune (Strange, Unsettling Man...)
Absit
Absit is a bit scared of Zane, but he's scared about just about everyone. He tries his best to not get on his bad side, and overall succeeds. Zane appreciates suck ups (while also looking down on them, a little hypocritically).
Zane
Zane looks down on Absit for being weak and pathetic and might be one to mock or "use" Absit, if he wants something, knowing he won't put up a fight. He also might potentially help Absit, not for his sake, but because Zane hates Gatlin and knows Absit doesn't like him either. So even if Absit won't help him, Zane might utilize Absit as an excuse as to why something he does to Gatlin is justified.
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"You don't—I don't—ahhhh!"
Roleplay Vanilla Sex Toys Pegging Femdom Romance/Affection Spooning
Basic Info
- Biromantic Bisexual (Female lean)
- Flaccid: 3.5" (8.9 cm) Erect: 6.4" (16.5 cm). Circumcized.
- Inexperienced
- Position: Sub
He's very soft and prefers cuddling over sex. Very vanilla, but can be into some more innocent roleplay stuff.
Trivia
- Due to all his trauma, Absit's not particularly kinky and far prefers soft, slow, romantic sex.
- He's a pushover who has trouble saying "no" to things, so dub-con is pretty likely with him, but he's super unlikely to enjoy it. Poor guy.
- I like "rolling for penis size," and the dice said Absit was big... twice. (He's not huge, but I prefer realistic sizes (not 99th percentile stuff), so for my characters, he's big. I like to joke that he has Low Dick Energy, but Big Dick Dick.
Preferences
General
- Vanilla Sex: At the end of the day, he's a deeply traumatized man who prefers things light, wholesome, and simple.
- Foreplay: He prefers a big buildup to sex, instead of just doing it. Bonus points if it's soft or romantic. Cuddling, kisses, booping noses, etc.
- Crossdressing: Absit isn't trans, but feels more comfortable in a "woman's" more passive role, so he can enjoy being the "female" in the relationship.
- Age Regression: Wholesome, not kinky. He sometimes regresses when he's comfortable. He stops talking, instead using hand and head motions. It's not a sexual thing, but it could happen during sex.
- Fingering/Handjobs: It's something easy, not taxing, and not particularly scary to do. He likes it a lot.
- Toys: He often prefers using toys over using his own dick, though first attempts with a new toy can stress him out.
- Pegging: He'd prefer the female sticking something in, so pegging it is.
Giving
- Body Worship: He cares a lot about his partner, believing himself unworthy. The least he can do is treat their body with respect.
Receiving
- Femdom: In a world where he's somehow over his deceased wife, Absit would enjoy some Femdom, so long as it wasn't too painful.
- Mommy Kinik: Wholesomeness, not degeneracy. He'd love to have a loving woman take care of him, as if he were a kid.
- Pegging: He'd prefer the female sticking something in, so pegging it is.
Turn Ons
- Softness
- Gentle caresses
- Assurance
- Continued Clarification of Consent
Turn Offs
- Yelling
- Aggression
- Pain
- Loud noises
- Criticism
- Negative emotions
- Dirty Touching: He's not a baby like my other characters. You have to be forward with your advances.